Warm and Cuddly

  Why Can't a Man be More Like a Cat? 
--The title of a chick book

Women like soft things;
men would have sex in a box if they could
--Dave Chapelle 

My second point is that the shape of each human being
was completely round, with back and sides in a
circle; they had four hands each, as many legs as hands,
and two faces, exactly alike, on a rounded neck.
Between the two faces, which were on opposite sides,
was one head with four ears. There were two sets
of sexual organs, and everything else
was the way you’d imagine it from what I’ve told you.  
--Plato, The Symposium 

What's the longest hour?
The time between when you come, and she goes
--A man's joke
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[Ed. comment: Ranger wrote these thoughts for RAW in August, but what a propitious moment to share them now, following the previous piece on rape (NOT this kind.) It is a certain man's point of view -- Ranger's, a man who stated, non-malificently and unawares, "Everyone wants more than one sex partner, right?" Please jump in and validate or differentiate, as is your inclination.]

In the war of the sexes, women say that what rings their bells is that sex be safe and protective. Their claim that sex be about candles and soft bedding is used to beat men into sexual subservience, but this is not what sex is about.

Sex is not about safety or warmth, it is about sex. Sex just plain and simple. It's not about feelings of warmth but rather, spreading the seeds.  Men do not need to be comfortable. We do not need to feel secure or any of that stuff. We just need to deliver the goods, and then we may provide security, if the we think the benefits of sticking around outweigh the benefits of leaving. This is not always an easy call.

Sex is not about security. It is about danger, intrusion, stealth and strength. It is the thrill of the hunt. We are watching the perimeter, securing the cave and preparing to go hunt, build the fire and sharpen the spears. If nature wanted sex to be about security, our sex organs would be on the other side of our body so that four eyes would be pointed in 360 degrees for safety and alertness.

When Ranger hears women bemoaning not getting reassurances of safety from men, he wonders if the whole ball of wax (WACS?) is worth the effort.

Nature has provided women with the security but man sure has been shortchanged in the evolutionary effort.

It is Ranger's contention that when women describe their ideal warm and cuddly man, they are actually describing the attributes of another women. How can a man be both?

Has society destroyed our evolutionary function qua men?

{ed. addendum: Stumbled upon a site called, "MakeLoveNotPorn", which attempts to show the differences between porn ("today's sex ed class") and making love. For those who have been bred in the school of porn, good luck with that.}